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Failure to invest in
children leads to violence
Kennebec Journal & Morning Sentinel

This letter is in response to the Aug. 6 story "These children need a place." As a social worker, involved with troubled adolescents for the past 10 years, I can attest to the plight of those mothers. Among a growing number of young men with no fathers at home, the crime rate has increased dramatically throughout the past decade. The combined effects of testosterone, an increasing violent culture (15 homicides in Maine already this year) and the lack of a positive male role model in the home can create angry, aggressive young men. Acceptance and validation is often provided by older adolescent males seeking to recruit for their "gangs." The younger male is then required to "car shop" (rifling through open vehicles for anything they can find), assault innocent people and engage in property destruction to gain initiation into the gang. This is occurring frequently and will ultimately overwhelm our already inadequate correctional facilities.

There are answers. One is to increase the state's Department of Health and Human Services and Department of Corrections responsibilities to intervene on the behalf of parents unable to provide adequate support for their children. There are quality residential facilities in this state such as Good Will Hinckley, Spurwink, Sweetser and Phoenix House to name a few. These facilities provide a supportive environment to help kids redirect their energies towards school, sports, developing meaningful relationships with others and healthy self-esteem. This helps reduce their vulnerability to negative influences. Kids in trouble deserve this chance. If we don't invest now in these children by providing supportive environments, we'll invest much more later to incarcerate them.

Bill Lord

China Village

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fattubbo of Winthrop, ME
Sep 4, 2007 7:48 AM
If these kids lack positive male role models, why not try keeping the father in the kid's life? Not every divorced dad is a deadbeat dad. Not every divorced father is an abusive man. Not every divorced father is a druggie or an alcoholic.

A good many divorced fathers would absolutely love to be more involved with the lives of their children. However, in a great many situations, the child is used as a weapon against the father. In these situations, the father is nothing more than an ATM for the kid. Yet, when kids, male children specifically, begin to act out, the outcry usually is, "Where's the father?"

For decades, gender feminists have been decrying the value of the male in the family. Mow, we're starting to reap what we sow. Out of wedlock births coupled with easy divorce is helping to create the situation the writer is referring to. We're starting to see that children really do need both parents in their lives. This single mommy game is merely fueling the government need to add more programs such as welfare, child support agencies, and family courts.

I'm also sure that some single mommies will write on here about how their ex husband or the father of their child is a this or a that. I'd like to know why some of these women continue to repeatedly choose such men.report abuse
Kim of Winthrop, MA
Sep 4, 2007 8:43 AM
Yay fattubbo! I have seen the kids used as weapons to get mor child support in more cases than not. The father is actually interested in taking the kid(s), but the mother spouts off some crap about how he neglects her and the kids for payment, finds out that he is dating someone else and with holds the children or some other kind of destructive crap. Yes, there are guys out there who are not so great, but for most of them it is all a gender feminist issue. AND kids don't ALWAYS belong with the mother!!report abuse
gambler of Gardiner, ME
Sep 4, 2007 1:38 PM
My ex-husband and I divorced many years ago. I made the choice to let our son live with his dad. I believe a boy needs his father when he gets older more so then he needs his mother. My ex and I get along get. Boys need good men role models and it should be their dads.report abuse

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